When engaging in CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) BDSM, there is an important rule of etiquette to follow. Respect for the other person’s body and their limits is a must. This means that before beginning any CBT play, both parties must clearly communicate their expectations, limits, and safewords.
It’s important to understand that BDSM is all about consent. Both parties must be comfortable with their roles and share an understanding of the boundaries before any play can begin. It’s also important to remember that BDSM can be quite intense, so it’s necessary to stay within the limits that both parties have already agreed upon.
In addition, it’s important that both partners have open communication. This means that each person should communicate and check in with the other throughout the scene. This way, the top (the person who is administering the CBT) can make sure that the bottom (the person receiving the CBT) is still comfortable and the scene isn’t moving too quickly.
The top should also be aware and sensitive to the bottom’s body language at all times. This is important because it allows the top to monitor the bottom’s reactions and adjust the intensity of the scene, as needed. It’s also important for the bottom to be aware of what’s comfortable and what’s not. For example, a bottom may initially think they can take a certain kind of intensity, but after a while, find that it’s just getting to be too much.
Another rule of etiquette for engaging in CBT BDSM is to take proper safety measures. The top should always use caution and care when applying any kind of CBT play, so as to avoid causing any lasting damage. The bottom should also be aware of their body and any signs of discomfort, pain, or dizziness and promptly communicate them to the top.
Finally, it’s important to remember that BDSM is meant to be a consensual and pleasurable experience for both partners. Engaging in CBT BDSM therefore should not involve any ridicule or humiliation. Positive reinforcement is key to ensuring safety and trust in a BDSM scene.
Overall, respect, communication, and safety are the key elements of etiquette when engaging in CBT BDSM. As long as these rules are followed, a BDSM scene with CBT can be an incredibly enjoyable experience for both parties. Extra resources.
What kind of people seek out dominatrix therapy?
It is difficult to say for sure what kind of people seek out dominatrix therapy. However, in my experience, many of the people who come to me for this kind of therapy come from a variety of backgrounds and present with a variety of needs and goals.
People are typically referred to me through word of mouth, therapists, and other professionals who are familiar with the type of work I do. Quite often, the person coming to me may have already expressed their desire to access this type of therapeutic intervention.
My clients can range from those who have experienced trauma, those dealing with dysfunction in their relationships, and people who have difficulty regulating or managing their emotions. Additionally, many clients are those who seek a measure of self exploration, seeking a safe space to process and experience unique aspects of themselves.
It is important for clients to me to be self-aware; they should have an established sense of willing to know themselves better. It is also important to work in a collaborative and authentic fashion, as many of the techniques used for this type of therapy can be sensitive or challenging for people.
A typical client is likely to be someone who is self-reflective, open to exploring unfamiliar questions, and their kinkier sides, and has an ability to be with their feelings of pleasure and discomfort to further their process of self-discovery. It is not necessarily the case that the desires of the client need to specifically involve BDSM-type activities for them to experience therapeutic benefits from their engagement with a qualified practitioner.
Dominatrix therapy is an engaging tool to work through issues related to power-structures, control and consent, as well as exploring identity issues. I find it to be a highly effective therapy for those who are looking for help to work through the emotions that can arise with these topics.
I am always humbled and moved by the courage and vulnerability my clients show when they come for this type of therapy. It is a privilege to provide a safe and judgement-free place where people can explore their curiosities, challenge themselves, and learn how to trust and show up for themselves.